BabyWearing – Guest Post 8

Today I am going to hand over the “blogging reigns” to a lady who I know through my business Baby Signing Mummy. I first became aware of Sarah Ockwell Smith’s work 18 months ago and I have watched whilst her and her business partner’s business Baby Calm has gone from strength to strength. A couple of weeks ago I wrote a post all about what baby equipment Daddy Lloyd and I needed to start adding to our wish list and the response I got was amazing (we have such a long list now) but one of the things I am really interested in learning more about is using a baby sling. This in its self opens an entire catalogue of questions – where do I find out information? what type of sling should I look at? how do I know it’s the right sling for me? Will Mini Lloyd be safe in it? Will I know how to secure it correctly? 

Sarah Ockwell Smith very kindly said she would write me an introductory post into babywearing, and it is so brilliant, that I wanted to share it with you all – so over to Sarah….

“If someone told you they knew a secret to help your baby sleep better, cry less and learn better, you would certainly be interested…. “ Dr Maria Blois – ‘BabyWearing’.

Did you know research says carrying your baby in a sling can reduce their crying by 43%? And that you can buy a great sling that will last until toddlerdom for only around £50? No wonder Babywearing is becoming more and more popular, with many new parents seeing the benefits of using a traditional style baby sling to carry their baby and keep them calm.

The general rule when searching for a good carrier is to find one that is both supportive for you and your baby by carrying your baby as they would be held ‘in arms’. The sling should not place any strain on your back, neck or shoulders and similarly should support your baby’s back in its natural curved “C” shape

C Position ©Moby Wrap BabyCalm Photography

Your baby’s legs should be supported in an “M” shape (or froggy) position:

M Position ©Moby Wrap BabyCalm Photography

In order to carry your baby in a comfortable and anatomically correct ‘in arms’ position the sling should support the baby out to their knees (knee pit to knee pit) with their knees higher than their. As a general rule of thumb commercial baby carriers from high street shops generally do not support a baby out to their knees, with their knees above their hips, or their back in a natural “C” shape and so have earned the unsavoury nickname “crotch danglers” in the baby wearing industry who liken this type of carrier to being dangled from a parachute harness rather than cradled comfortably in a hammock. How would you rather be carried?

If you are a newbie to babywearing by far the most versatile of all the slings available is the Wrap Sling, a 5m (on average) long piece of fabric that you use to wrap around your baby. Wrap slings can be used to carry your baby in many positions including a newborn cradle hold, on your front, hip or back. Wrap slings are divided into 3 categories:

Stretchy Wrap Slings

Stretchy wraps are great beginner slings as the stretch in the fabric is very forgiving on the inexperienced babywearer. They can be tied in a variety of positions which, although on first glance is very daunting, is actually pretty easy once you have a bit of practice. Stretchy wrap slings are lovely for newborns and support well until the baby is around 9-12mths. Stretchy brands include Moby Wrap (BabyCalm’s favourite!), Boba and Kari-Me.

Here’s Michael Underwood learning how to tie his (and Angellica Bell’s!) new Moby Wrap Sling at our stand at The Earl’s Court Baby Show last year:

Micheal Underwood ©BabyCalm Photography

Woven Wrap Slings

Woven wraps have all the advantages of stretchy wraps, plus they are more supportive as the weave of the fabric means they do not stretch with the baby’s weight, this does however mean they take more practice to tie well. Woven wraps can be used for a multitude of carrying positions including back carries and can be used into toddlerdom and beyond, for this reason they are the most versatile baby carrier you can buy, however they are more expensive than stretchies. Brands include Neobulle, Lenny Lamb, Calin Bleu and Girasol.

Hybrid Wrap Slings

Je Porte Mon Bebe is an exciting new addition to wrap slings; these slings incorporate the ease of use of a stretchy wrap with the versatility, support, and importantly, back carrying capabilities of a woven. The best of both worlds for under £70!

As well as wrap slings you can also buy many other types of sling, the most common being:

Ring Slings

Ring slings are very easy to put on and do not require any tying, simply pop over your head and tighten by pulling the fabric through the rings. Ring slings are generally made out of woven fabric so can support well, they can be used for little babies right into toddlerdom and beyond (when used in a hip carry), although they do have limited positions when compared to wrap slings. Brands include Lenny Lamb, Neobulle and Maya Wrap.

Pouch Slings

Pouch slings are very similar to ring slings however they are either fitted to size with no fastenings or they have an adjusting mechanism (such as a clip/fastener). They are very, very quick to put on, however what they gain in speed of use they lose in support. They can be good for short wearing times like a quick pop into the supermarket; however they are not really supportive enough to wear for long carries. Pouch slings tend to be the cheapest sling to buy. Brands include the Peanut Shell and Hotsling.

Mei Tais

Mei Tais are Asian inspired carriers, they are similar in style to a wrap sling with a supportive central panel and then 4 lengths of fabric off of each corner to wraparound and tie, they are usually quicker to put on than a wrap sling and the central panel provides good support, often they come with extra details such as pockets. Mei Tais are good for slightly older babies and toddlers, particularly in back carries, but not supportive enough for newborns. Brands include the Maya Tie and BabyHawk.

Soft Structured Carriers

Soft structured carriers are most similar to the popular baby carrier we see in most high street shops, however with the important addition of providing proper back support for both baby and wearer and providing support out to the baby’s knees – thus keeping their legs in a froggy position, rather than “crotch dangling” as is so common in commercial carriers. They are the most “manly” usually due to buckles and straps required to fit them and are therefore popular with dads! Whilst the can be used with smaller babies (usually with extra inserts) they are most suited to use with older babies and toddlers (particularly for back carries).Brands include Beco, Boba, Manduca and Ergo.

Babywearing Guidelines and Cautions

Babywearing International advises parents to follow these guidelines when babywearing:

  • Ensure the baby’s back and torso is well supported: Make sure the baby is not curled up such that his chin is pressed to his chest or his airway is otherwise compressed. Ensuring that you can put two fingers vertically between the baby’s chin and chest is a good guide.
  • Carry babies how they would be held in-arms: Well-designed front baby carriers hold babies snugly against the chest and near caregiver’s face.
  • Monitor the baby at all times. Make sure nothing obstructs the face or impedes breathing.
  • Be aware of movements and surroundings. In general, don’t do something while wearing a child that shouldn’t be done while simply holding them. Avoid heat sources, bumping and jarring motions, and other hazardous situations

An easy way to remember the safety guideline is by using the acronym TICKS:


In view at all times

Close enough to kiss

Keep chin off chest

Supported back

We’ll leave you with a great video showing you how to tie a stretchy wrap sling; it’s so much easier to watch in action than learn from instructions or diagrams! This particular example uses a Moby Wrap and demonstrates a front cross carry tie, the easiest carry to start with!


A wide range of slings and carriers can be purchased from the BabyCalm website or in person from your local BabyCalm teacher.

By Sarah Ockwell-Smith

Mum to 4, Babywearing addict, Doula, Antenatal Teacher, Director of BabyCalm Ltd and Author of ‘BabyCalm: A Guide to Calmer Babies and Happier Parent’, Piatkus, 2012.

A MASSIVE thank you to Sarah for this post! I have already learnt so much and am getting very excited to try some slings out, I will post again soon once I have been out investigating which slings I like – but those of you out there already using them tell me your recommendations please – And please give Sarah a wave too 🙂

About louise

One member of Team Lloyd, Sharing our expat tales and adventures, loves photography and capturing "that moment" Currently can be found in the sunshine, Southern California.

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8 thoughts on “BabyWearing – Guest Post

  • Bod for tea

    Lovely post! I used a stretchy wrap when Curly Girl was tiny, it was a god send as she was so colickly and cried ALL the time. The warmth of my body seemed to ease her soreness. I’m going to make one this time around – there’s so many lovely fabrics at places like John Lewis. Here’s to our baby wearing adventures!

  • Claire@Mummy Plum

    Very interesting read. I used a Lascal carrier with my first, but this time I’d really like to try a sling. The wrap around ones look a bit daunting to me, I am a complete dullard when it comes to these things so will need an ‘idiot’ proof one that is easy to put on and to position baby in – otherwise I’ll spend the whole time worrying he/ she is not ok! Will definitely look forward to reading your follow up recommendation. x

    • louise Post author

      It does all look daunting doesn’t it? I have found a local sling group to me, they meet regularly and have suggested coming along before little one arrives to “test” out a couple of the slings. They have also recommended practising with a doll to get the positioning right for when baby arrives. I will report back on this, and definitely will be wanting to try out the Moby Wrap through Sarah’s great advice today!

  • Circus Queen

    What a great intro to babywearing! I used a Moby stretchy wrap with my daughter until she was six months then started using an Ergobaby, which my husband loves because it is manly and very easy to stick her on the back with. I sometimes use a Storchenwiege woven wrap with her (she’s now twelve months) but I may sell on and look for one of those hybrid wraps. They sound amazing!

    • louise Post author

      Thank you! So pleased that you found it useful, I am so thankful to Sarah for writing it for me. Great to hear you used the Moby Wraps from birth, think that does seem to be the one I am being recommended the most. Let me know how you get on with a hybrid wrap x

  • Ruth

    Wow what a great post! I’ve been doing some research on this for baby 2 and I wish I’d have had something this succinct and informative rather than getting bits and bobs of info from around the web. I used Baby Bjorn and BabaSling with Andrew but didn’t get on with either so stopped using them pretty quickly I later learned through Cambridge Sling Meet that neither are particularly good for positioning of baby or comfortable for mum! Glad it’s not just me then 🙂 I’ve narrowed down my choice for this time round to a Moby wrap or a Storchenwiege woven wrap, but still trying to decide whether a woven (which looks like it lasts longer) or stretchy (which looks like it’s easier for complete novices like me) wrap is best.
    Oh and on a different note – I feel such a wally now for not knowing you were a baby signing teacher and therefore explaining what I was doing in that photo booth at Britmums when you clearly knew! *embarrassed*

    • louise Post author

      Hehehe please don’t worry! I was at Britmums as me and not business me! They were very good signs though! Glad the post is useful – I really can’t wait to try out these different slings and will love your reviews on them too 🙂 xx